“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” I Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is, as I said in a previous post, a universal language. We all wish to speak it and we all wish to have it. I think even more challenging than acquiring such a thing is the quest to figure out what it is.
Many people question what love is. What is love? Is it an emotion? Do you feel it? Do you “do” it? Is it natural? Is it work? What is love?
“Baby don’t hurt me…no more”
I fully believe that the Bible gives us a clear understanding of what love is and how it looks. The verses posted above are incredibly famous but far too quickly passed over. What I would like to do is take a few moments each week and dive into each “love is” statement. My hope is to be an encouragement and maybe even point you in the right direction when it comes to future “love” endeavors. 🙂 Here we go!
Love is patient:
It’s often said that you should be careful what you pray for and that you should never pray for patience. God honors these kinds of prayers and believe me, He will be quick to offer opportunities for us to practice these new skills. How is love patient, though?
Andy Stanley defines patience as, “the decision to move at someone else’s pace rather than pressure him or her to match yours. Patience is choosing to do less than you are capable of for the sake of keeping in step with someone else.”
Right off of the bat, we find out that patience is ultimately a root of selflessness. It’s putting someone else’s needs, wants, inclinations, feelings, and benefit before your own. It’s opting to put our needs, wants, etc on the backburner so that the one you love can have what they so desire first.
Why patient, though?
Well, what’s the opposite of patience? Impatience! Stanley also labels impatience as a feeling rather than an action. Yes, you can act impatient but ultimately the root of the action is what you’re feeling. Patience is the exact opposite in that very rarely will you feel like being patient. You have to choose it!
In putting the other person’s needs before your own, like Jesus did with us, it exemplifies true, sacrificial love. Patience isn’t natural. Meeting someone where they are isn’t natural but opting to slow down shows a kind of love this world isn’t used to.
Patience has also been defined as, “the ability to be wronged and not retaliate in any way.” How many of us can honestly say that we can be wronged and not retaliate? Not this guy.
Patience truly comes down to the thought of putting someone else’s “wholeness” above yourself. If you truly love someone as Jesus does, your natural response to them should be patience! Be patient in conversation, be patient in activities, be patient in marriage, be patient in waiting for marriage, etc…
Patience and love defer. It opts to give the other person the upper hand at all times.
The beauty of this is that it naturally promotes REAL love. It doesn’t elevate this kind of “get what you can while you can” mentality the world so often pushes on us. This is a love of Jesus and if you’re looking to be made more like him, try starting here.
Try and show someone patience this week by:
1.) Confessing to the Lord any sin and also that you can’t do this on your own
2.) Being mindful of situations where you could opt to be patient
3.) Then, with those situations in mind, choose to be patient!
The Gospel of Jesus gives us all a chance to be made new. You can do this through the power of Christ! Be made more in His image every day and choose to walk with Him.
You are loved!