I had the opportunity to be a part of two weddings this weekend.
Both of these weddings were for friends who had finally found the one they would share the rest of their lives together. Obviously, they were days full of happiness and joy for the individuals.
I was asked to be the “DJ” for the first wedding and I was asked to help with catering for the second. For the majority of the celebrations and festivities, I was tied to a responsibility and I did not participate (much) in dancing, eating, and chatting with those around me.
That didn’t stop me from catching myself standing in the distance with a goofy grin spread across my face as the couples danced with each other and their parents. I laughed as my friends made fools of themselves. I became caught up in memories that I had shared with these individuals over the last few years. It was an amazing few days remembering and seeing what God has done and where He has brought each of these couples.
Love changes your life.
In years past, but more-so weeks recent, I’ve sat with friends and family who have had their hearts shattered by the very same “emotion” that filled those hearts who were recently wed.
I’ve watched people cry because of failed love. I’ve seen them walk down darkened roads because of misplaced trust and unmet expectations.
I’ve seen the damage of self-inflicted wounds on the wrists of those who thought they had found the one whom their soul longed for.
Love changes your life.
There is a strange ebb and flow in which life moves. There are moments of incredulous victory followed by moments of utter despair. We soar through the sky as if eagles, only to then find ourselves feeding on the scraps as though mangy dogs.
Moments of surplus, moments of need.
Victory followed by defeat.
Heartbreak superseded by hatred followed by life-giving forgiveness.
More often than not, these opposite extremes encroach upon our lives unexpectedly. There is no warning. A tornado of despair touches down upon the grassy knolls of our expectations and shreds our man-made future to the ground.
Life isn’t fair.
Life is beautiful.
A confusing dichotomy because it requires sacrifice. Wisdom begs knowledge and knowledge is born by experience. In order to fully know, we must be fully immersed. There is no escaping the grip of the destruction nor the vices of unadulterated joy.
You must simply exist day by day.
I can’t stress to you enough how life’s fluctuation has calmed my soul. I am still the very same 5 year old child who needed to know every detail of everyday, but somehow I am changed.
I can only control what I can control: my reaction. I cannot control the rising of the sun, nor the onset of a raging flood. I can only choose how I will receive either instance.
Yet so often I find myself awake at night mulling over the very things I believe are out of my control. I imagine different proverbial roads that I could have traveled down if only I would have done such and such. It is a tiring task, maintaining the very essence of something that is out of my hands.
My worries…Your worries…are a moot, endless point.
“And now, finally, God answered Job from the eye of a violent storm. He said:
2-11 “Why do you confuse the issue?
Why do you talk without knowing what you’re talking about?
Pull yourself together, Job!
Up on your feet! Stand tall!
I have some questions for you,
and I want some straight answers.
Where were you when I created the earth?
Tell me, since you know so much!
Who decided on its size? Certainly you’ll know that!
Who came up with the blueprints and measurements?
…That was me!”
Job 38:1-11 (MSG)
I am writing to you from a place of introspection. I hope you are tracking with me well. I agree with you when you say that life sucks. I rejoice with you as you celebrate the high’s of life’s beauty.
There is no ground for anyone to say that life must be one thing and can never deter. No joyful person should ever trod on the sorrowful. No sorrowful should bemoan the joyful. We are in this together. Above all, there is a God who knows the pain, sorrow, and joy of human life. He experienced it. Don’t sell him short on his love for you.
In this moment, whether you are dancing with a smile or weeping your evening away, put your trust in a God who is with you on the mountain and in the valley.
He knows what you’re feeling more than you believe.
“For we do not have a (God) who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. 16 Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” Hebrews 4:15-16
You are loved.
You are valued.
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