A Midnight Discussion Concerning My Approach to Relationships/Love

Life has a funny way of making you stop to appreciate the little moments in life.

Treasuring the minute-by-minute passing of the day has certainly become a fine art; and a lost one at that. Life moves at a high velocity nowadays. Our attention is pulled downwards to our technology, our minds scattered about thinking of the next thing to occupy us. We rarely take a moment to simply dwell, to be aware of our surroundings.

When I say we, I’m speaking of myself more than anyone else. Especially as I write this to you. *Shame on me*

A few days ago I found myself ranting about the majority of culture’s current mindset towards love and relationships. I’m still not sure where the frustration originated, but it boiled over. If you haven’t read it yet, here’s the link: A Midnight Rant Concerning Our Culture’s Approach To Relationships/Love.

After posting the article, a conversation with a friend, Dillon Gerde, sparked a deeper, inner conversation within me concerning that post.

I value commitment, passion, and dedication. I place them as high priorities. I don’t mess around when it comes to knowing what I want in a relationship. Why? Because I’ve finally decided what I’m looking for. There’s no compromise.




There’s another side to all of this that I, and many others, so quickly forget.

The side that encompasses having fun and enjoying life with another human being for who they are.

I’m having a hard time writing this because this is something I’m not very good at. It’s not that I don’t appreciate people or value them for who they are. I’m so naturally fast-paced that I forget to breathe. I forget to appreciate what I’m experiencing. I’m always looking for the next big thing to happen.

I’ve conditioned myself in a way that I have to have something to look forward during the week in order to get me through the day. I guess working a job that isn’t my calling has a lot to do with that. The more I dwell on it, the more miserable I realize that lifestyle is.

Every single day and every single person have a unique part about them that can make life worth living in. Not just getting through it, but actually living in it and being present. Nothing says “I love you” more than putting down the phone to take the time to listen and to be involved.

Life is moving fast enough as it is. I’m astonished at the fact that I’ll be 25 soon. I often hear people say, “Just wait ’til you’re 30!” Honestly, I don’t want to think about it. I want to appreciate what I have now because it may not be there tomorrow.

Tying all of this back into a singular idea: Love the person sitting right in front of you and enjoy their presence. It could be a family member, a friend, a lover, or even an annoying co-worker. Life isn’t guaranteed and there’s no need to spend it rushing through to the next checkpoint.

If the Lord blesses me with another opportunity to love, I want to be the kind of man that takes the time to enjoy the here-and-now; to be a servant, to be a friend, to be a comfort. Each day we have the opportunity to make a difference that will last beyond our earthly years. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to waste that.

Can you relate? Am I the only that experiences this mentality? What do you do to make sure you stay present in your daily life? Let me know in the comments!

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4 Replies to “A Midnight Discussion Concerning My Approach to Relationships/Love”

  1. Kinda–when my husband and I first started dating, all I could do was look to the next thing–engagement, wedding, house, kid. I wish I would’ve spent more time focusing on and enjoying the now than anticipating (and fretting over, to be all southern) what was to come!

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    1. I understand that completely. That’s all I ever do. I think it’s innately ingrained within us and it’s normal. Not always a bad thing, but can become one. It just sucks when you spend so much time anticipating that the good things you have now pass you by.

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